Happy Valentine Day or as I like to call it, Happy Love Myself day!!
I hadn’t planned it, but my journaling this morning became a love letter I wrote to myself. What a moving & magical way to begin my day. I acknowledged all the beautiful qualities I love about myself. I celebrated my life; the good, the amazing, the hurtful and the despair. If everything that’s happened in my life hadn’t occurred, I wouldn’t be who I am today. The more I get to know myself and peel away the lies and stories I took on, the more I see this beautiful woman that has so much love and sparkle.
What’s one act of self love you can add to your day?
Could you imagine how amazing your life could be if you created a self love practice every day!!!
Last week I introduced you to a compassionate practice. I would love to hear what you’ve been learning. Send me a message.
My compassionate practice today will be spending time in my sewing room finishing a big pillow cover with my favourite fabric designer. I love the freedom I experience when I’m sewing. I don’t have to think….
In continuing with my theme of Self Love this month, I wanted to talk more about that spiral from feeling joy to feeling hopelessness & despair. I don’t even get a warning when it’s going to happen sometimes.
So, how do you stop the spiral?
In short, you don’t. Something has happened to trigger you and the best thing you can do is give yourself the space to recognize it when it’s happening or happened. The more I learn to recognize what I’m feeling or what’s happening in my reality, the more I am able to respond with choice. And, the best choice is to stop. Just stop everything; maybe take a seat, close your eyes and just stop. Breathe in and out for a few minutes.
In order to be in a different space or to feel something different, it’s important to know exactly what you’re feeling right now. And, then to let yourself feel it. If you’re angry, it won’t serve anyone around to stuff it down and deny it. I promise you it will rear it’s ugly head at the most inopportune time. I’ve been on both ends of anger coming out at the wrong time in the wrong place. Now, I’m not saying you have to tell everyone you’re with “hey, I’m angry” It can be as simple as recognizing a reaction that’s made you mad. Acknowledge it and put it aside until you can be in the right space to explore and just let yourself be mad.
I remember being on a Lifestream course weekend years ago. We had just played the Game of Life and my team lost, well we all lost. There were about 30 of us in the room and the leader was looking at us all with so much disappointment. He singled me out and said, “You, Beth, I’m most disappointed in you, you knew the game and yet you did nothing.” If I had had a gun, I would have used it I was that angry. I wanted to hurt him for singling me out. We were sent home shortly after, in silence, for the rest of the night. I remember driving home, I felt sick to my stomach I was so angry. About halfway home I started to cry. It hit me like a ton of bricks, I had spent my life swallowing my anger and it was making me sick. I think I cried in my car for an hour just letting it all out.
The gift he gave me was seeing and feeling anger and how I had bottled it up. I was frozen because I didn’t know how to let go of my anger. Now, at that time, I said to myself, I’m never going to let myself be angry again….. Great statement & little did I know I was setting myself up for failure yet again. There’s nothing wrong with being angry. It’s an emotion and in order to not feel angry, you have to feel anger. It will shift, I promise.
Maybe anger isn’t your go to emotion, is there an emotion that you feel intimate with? Let me know. I would love to hear what your relationship is with your emotions.
In what ways do you love yourself? What are the qualities you know about yourself that you love to share in the world? Let’s love each other up today!
Are you curious to find your truth?
I would love to help you find your way! Send me a message & we can set up a call. No obligation to continue and no charge. I would love for you to know your truth.
Till next week!
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Beth McKay, CPCC, is the CBO, the Chief Bodacious Officer and founder extraordinaire of The Bodacious Way. Beth has been described as a tenacious, determined and compassionate coach. A Professional Certified Coach & Motivational speaker, Beth thrives on waking women up to the core truths of who they are. Beth believes that a women that embodies her truths is a woman in charge of creating the life she dreams of living.
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