I love watching how my clients imaginations get sparked. There’s a saying that just popped into my head. The teacher will appear when you’re ready to learn. We have the choice of looking at every situation in our lives in 2 ways; as something that’s happening to us or as an opportunity to learn.
What have you become aware of this past week? Have you noticed any commentaries that run through your mind over & over & over again?
Awareness is the new black! I swear.
Back to my client. She told me on one of our calls that she’s purposefully doing the opposite of what she’d normally do. It’s teaching her so much about her beliefs, her comfort zone and most importantly, where she’s feeling stuck.
We’re creatures of habit.
I know, the moment I wrote that another voice inside my head said, don’t fence me in! Ha! If you think about your life though, and got really honest, there’s something that feels really comforting about knowing what to expect. It’s less scary.
Monday’s are a full day for me. And, my habit is to relax during the evening, yup, with Netflix. I was invited to join an African drumming circle a couple of weeks ago. Secretly, I really wanted to go, but by 4pm each week, I made the choice to stick to my Monday night ritual.
Yesterday, I decided to do the opposite. OMG! I had so much fun and I learned how to play the Djembe.
Here’s a little taste of our instructor jamming… Pardon the size, for the life of me I can't figure out how to adjust it.
Doing the opposite of what I always do gave me the chance to have fun, learn something new, meet some great people and not go to bed feeling the same way I do, every single Monday.
“We can’t solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them”
Read that one again!
One of the ways we get so stuck in our life is by doubting ourselves and the choices and decisions we’ve made. Self-Doubt can be so crippling. Should I apply for that new job? I should have stayed at the office longer. If only I had stayed in school.
What are your biggest doubts that nag you? Take some time today to listen.
Ok, let’s do a quick review.
STOP IT!! This comes first. Remember Bob Newhart?
Next is awareness. Noticing only. What are the thoughts running around your head?
In order to get to where you want to go, you need to become aware of where you are.
This week, we’re going big!! Do the opposite! Get out of bed on the other side, take a new route to the office. Instead of turning the TV on for the entire evening, pick up a book, or go for a walk, or have a dance party in your kitchen. Just do the opposite of what you normally do.
Then, bring in your awareness. Only now, add compassion to the mix. Think about what you would say to your best friend if they did something new. Compassion is a game changer. There’s no room for your inner critic when compassion is present.
I can’t wait to hear what you do that’s opposite!
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