Reality has a funny way of catching up with you when you start paying attention. I got hit in the head with a 2×4, figuratively speaking, yesterday.
I recently did a survey for women. One of the questions I asked was “Which of these would you like to grow more of in your life?” Over 53% of the 87+ women that responded said they wanted to grow self care.
Message received, loud and clear; easy peasy. Right?
In Beth’s style, I decided to reach out to a few amazing women, Leaders, Coaches and friends to have conversations about self care. My goal was to share them to open a dialogue for creating space for more personal self care for everyone that listened.
Two of the conversations are live now. Here are the links to listen:
I hope you’ll comment on what really stands out for you.
Next up, share the details of the Self Care Workshop I’m launching at the end of November. (Details to follow. I’m so excited about what I’m creating.)
Monday was my day to write the content for the marketing of the workshop. What am I going to call it? I don’t know? How do I write the copy so it’s attractive and enrolling? I don’t know? OMG, what am I doing? I can’t do this. I need to scroll the internet so I can get some good ideas, what are others doing? That will help me figure out what to write. It has to be amazing. I want women to sign up right away, so it needs to be profound. OMG, why am I stuck? I keep staring at these words and they look stupid, nobody’s going to read it. It’s never going to work. Blah, blah, blah, blah……….. And, down the rabbit hole of self destruction I went.
STOP!!! Beth, please stop.
I have an incredibly strong judgemental critical voice, entity actually. He lives in my head. Yes, he’s a he. He’s had 50+ years of perfecting what he says to me to stop me in my tracks and stop me from being me. He’s not the one stopping me, it’s me listening and believing the lies he’s been feeding me all my life. You’re too much; You’re not good enough; you don’t belong. I could go on & on. I think you get the picture.
What do the voices in your head say?
One of the ways Ann practices self care is to have her circle of friends/colleagues to reach out to in times such as this. Ann shared quite a few beautiful ways she cares for herself in our conversation.
I am lucky to have a tribe as well. And, yesterday, I was able to reach out to my dear friend Cecily, who talked me off the ledge.
It’s ok to lean on a loved one to help you recover to what your heart knows.
What my heart knows is the only way to really care for another, is to begin with me. Last night in bed, I was reading Self Compassion by Kristin Neff. Here’s what she says: “From the Buddhist point of view, you have to care about yourself before you can really care about other people. If you are continually judging and criticizing yourself while trying to be kind to others, you are drawing artificial boundaries and distinctions that can only lead to feelings of separation and isolation.” (Page 7)
In my conversation with Sabrina, I love the metaphor she uses to describe the importance of starting with yourself. Remember the last time you flew? The FA’s do their standard safety demonstration before the plane takes off. When those oxygen masks drop, they are very clear that you are to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you help another.
In order for me to connect and care for another, I need to be connected and caring for myself.
Instead of typing this on my couch, as I was yesterday. I purposely set the intention to connect to my heart. I’m sitting in my Room of Wonder, with my freshly charged crystals, perfect music playing in the background and I have Frankincense in my difuser.
Now, a little about the Self Care Workshop.
- If you were one of the amazing women that participated in my survey and answered that you wanted more self care in your life, then this workshop is for you.
- If you long to change your relationship with the voices in your head, then this workshop is for you.
- If you’re curious to learn the difference between self care & self indulgence, then this workshop is for you.
- If you’re looking for your tribe of women to lean into for support, championing and accountability, then I promise you, this workshop is for you.
We’re going to meet via zoom 6 times. We’ll begin at the end of November and finish the week of Valentine Day (There’s a big secret for what I have planned that week). You will be invited to a private Facebook group. You’ll have a one-on-one coaching session with me before we start. And, lots of other surprises along the way.
This is open to the first 12 women that respond, enroll. Because this is the first time I’m offering this content, there is a one time introduction rate, $97.00 CAD for everything. This workshop will never be offered for this price again.
If you would like to speak to me about enrolling, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I would love to connect.
If you already know this is for you, then click this button & it will take you to Paypal to secure your seat.
Have an amazing Tuesday! And remember, take good care of you.
Bodacious Beth! xo