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What if?

What if everything that has happened in your life was leading you somewhere?

What if there is a purpose, bigger then the hurt or betrayal, that you had to experience?

What if you are exactly who & where you are supposed to be, in this exact moment?

I’m sitting in my Wonder Room this morning, scrolling around Facebook and Instagram. How many have liked my post this morning? Oh, there’s a new notification, I better see what that is.

Ops, I’m supposed to be updating my bio. I’ve got to email 1 more person this morning. Don’t forget the blog you committed to writing.

Can you feel the difference in these 2 places of being?

One has me looking inward, becoming still and listening. The other place has me wandering in the land of trying to do something and not do it very well.

So, back to my question, what if?

Our Deepest Fear

by Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves.
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of god.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

The word that I feel as I sit with her poem is freedom, living my life with full permission. I get to make the choices I want to make, I get to say what I want to say, I get to do what I want to do and I am willing to accept responsibility for myself.

I did an exercise with my coach last week. She called it Beth’s Unique Creative Brilliance. I got to relive my life from a whole different perspective. I shared some highs & some really dark times. These are my stories. They make me who I am today. I spent a lot of my life feeling shame for who I was. I don’t belong, I’m not loveable, nobody wants me. I don’t have that shame anymore. I’ve met it head on, with the help of my coaches & a couple of therapists.

What was so brilliant was seeing for the first time how resilient & strong & badass I am. When I found myself with no home to live in, I moved to Toronto & was hired by the 1st job I applied for. When I decided to stop smoking, I did, December 31, 2005 was the last cigarette I ever smoked. When I decided I was ready to lose weight, I did.

I make shit happen and I’m really good at it. And, even in the muck and darkest times in my life, I knew how to take care of myself & make different choices.

So, why do I share all this today? If we were sitting across from each other, I would ask you how do you feel right now? What’s going on inside?

What are your stories? How do they define you? 

I was asked to speak at a Fundraiser in April this year. I shared my story. I would love to share it with you in hopes that you can feel that free self within you. 

I’m looking for 3 women who are ready to take a journey inward to discovering their truth.  Is that you?

Respond to me with this link. Let’s talk! 

Yes, I’m ready!

 

What are you waiting for?

 

Do you ask for help?

It’s been a while since you’ve heard from me. It’s hard to believe that the first day of summer is only weeks away. It still feels like late winter in Nova Scotia.

How have you been? What’s holding your attention these days? When I sit to write, I always spend some time imagining what you might be doing when you read this. Have you had a good day? What’s inspiring you? I’m like the eternal flame of curiosity. And, if you’re ever inclined, please let me know! I would love to hear from you.

I had the privilege of assisting on an amazing coach training program for the past 9 months with Lucid Living. It’s called the Great Story Coaching Program. We just finished with an in person retreat in Tiburon, California. I’m excited to share that I have a new program coming out this summer.

Without getting into too much detail, we have 3 types of stories that we tell. I want to talk about  our overcoming story and asking for help.

One of my hardest lessons to learn has been asking for help. I can’t do that, people will think I’m weak or stupid. I can’t let people know that I don’t know what I’m doing. What if they say no? Nobody wants to help me. Nope, not going to do that. Suck it up Beth, you’re the only one that can fix this. I can’t trust anybody.

Do you have an internal dialogue that goes on & on when you’re feeling stuck about something, or wanting to ask for help?

I spent a lot of my life believing that I was all alone. I prided myself on all that I’d survived and overcome. But every night I would sit on my couch, alone, wondering why my phone didn’t ring. What was wrong with me?

I didn’t realize it but I had built this great big wall around me and nobody could get in. I was so guarded and protective of my “I’ve got this all handled” attitude that I didn’t see how much I was the one responsible for being alone.

There came a time in my life when I had to reach out to my Doctor because I had no other place to turn to and I didn’t want to give up. That was the day that changed my life. It took some years, lots of support from coaches & friends, and most importantly, it took me being willing to ask for help and admit that it was ok if I didn’t know how to do it.

Those internal voices I mentioned, they don’t exist anymore. I still have others, they never really go away. The difference today is, I know where a lot of them came from AND I know that they’re lying.

By asking for help, I’m no longer alone, I’ve found me.

I’m curious, what might be possible in your life, if you asked for help?

On Thursday June 14th, I’ll be guiding 6 women through a 6 wk Virtual program that begins with what’s inside. Self-Care, It Begins with you! There are 4 spaces left.

Contact me if you would like to know more.

Happy New Year!

I wanted to reach out today to say thank you! Thank you for being a part of my community of Bodacious Women!

My wish for you, for 2018, is making you your number one priority!

“Self Care is so important. When you take the time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You can’t serve from an empty vessel.” Eleanor Brown

Talking about Self Care! The tele-series starts this Thursday January 4th at 6:30pm EST. There are 6 spaces left. I would love to see a full group of like-minded women learning to make themselves their number one priority for 2018. Just imagine what the ripple effect will be like?

Here’s the link with all the details: Self Care – It Begins with You

I’m really excited about 2018. There’s magic in the air already! I’ve been invited to my very first Womens Circle tonight to honour the Full Moon. There’s nothing more sacred then getting together with like-minded women. Together, we can create so much!

Do you have any year end rituals? Or, do you set goals for the New Year?

I discovered the word Bodacious by doing an exercise to find my word of the year by Christine Kane. Here’s her link if you’d like to try her method: Word Of The Year

This year I chose a new technique developed by my good friend & colleague Seema Sodha. What I love about her year end ritual is it includes the good, the not so good, and the learning from what didn’t work. I don’t want to give too much away. Here’s the link to her process: How to Rock 2018

My words for 2018 are: PASSION, PLAY & PERMISSION

What I love about each word is they form what FREEDOM means to me. I am free when I am passionate about what I’m doing, I’m free when I’m playing. And, most important to me this year, is giving myself permission to be me, without the filters of “am I good enough” or “is this too much.”

I would love to hear from you if you try either of these, or if you have your own ritual. Who knows, someone else might benefit from what works for you! Send me an email at beth@bethmckay.com.

Lastly, for everyone that lives in the Halifax area, I am so pleased to share that I am holding a Vision Board workshop again this year and I’m not doing it alone. Andrea Chute, of Lower Sackville Yoga is co-leading it with me.

It’s a whole day dedicated to you:

We’ve designed an amazing day that starts out with gentle yoga and then we’ll dive into creating the vision you want for your life. A delicious lunch is included and everything you need to create your Vision Board.

Space is limited to 20 and there are 18 spaces left.

Last link, I promise, follow here for all the details: Vision Board Workshop

May 2018 be a year filled with well-being, joy, laughter and connection, to yourself first and then to others!

Much love,
Bodacious Beth!

Oh the lies we tell ourselves!

I had a coffee date with a new friend last week. We were getting together to talk about self care. She started out by offering me the most amazing feedback I have ever received about my website. It felt amazing that someone finally acknowledged the impact I wanted to create. I thanked her from the bottom of my heart and then shared the fact(?) that she was the first person to ever do that. And then I went on to share that I had never had an ROI from my site, not one. Forward to less then 5 minutes later & I shared that women had registered for my Vision Board workshop in January, through my website.

HOLY SHIT!! I just lied. And what’s crazy is that I actually believed what I’d said.

Have you ever said something and then realized that what you said isn’t true?

Andrea Chute, of Lower Sackville Yoga, & I had an amazing conversation AND we have some exciting news to share about a workshop we’re co-creating in January. Stay tuned!

Ok, back to the lies we tell ourselves and the lies we believe that aren’t even ours!

I have a lie that I’ve believed since kindergarten. My teacher wrote on my report card, Beth tends to be bossy. My parents translated it into Beth is too much.

I used to pride myself on my abilities of being able to perceive what others wanted. I called it a super power. I could out think anyone. I could see the whole picture and I knew what needed to be done.

What I didn’t realize I was doing, was thinking about everyone & everything else, and forgetting me. I never considered my thoughts, or desires, it just mattered that I fit in and that everything went smoothly. I didn’t want to be blamed for something going wrong.

As I write this morning, my heart is sad for how lonely I was and so starved for love. I was so busy trying to fit in and belong, that I never even considered who I was or where I wanted to belong.

Trace back in your life, is there something that was said to you that you’ve held onto & decided it must be true? Consider the impact it’s had on your life.

I have a super duper, over-achieving, perfectionist driven critical voice that lives in my head. Yes, this is what I used to call a super power. I also refer to it as my inner judge.

Here comes the fun part! I really mean it.

First, I throw that crazy judgemental critical voice out. I know it’s sole purpose is to try & make me safe by lying to me.

Then, I stop and listen.

I’d like to introduce you to my new friend that lives in my heart. She’s my nurturing voice. She wants what’s best for me. She loves me unconditionally and I’m learning she can also be the discerning voice that stops me when my choices aren’t serving my highest good.

I want what’s best for YOU!

If you would like to talk more about a belief that you would like to change, please respond, I would love to speak with you. Email Beth

If you’re ready to take that critical voice that’s constantly chattering away in your head and learn to silence it, then I would love for you to join this 6 part tele-class workshop on Self-Care.

Follow this link for the details: Self Care, It begins with you

Or, sign up right now! There are only 8 spaces left:  REGISTER HERE

What is one thing you can do differently today that would be an act of Self care?

Self Care – It begins with me!

Reality has a funny way of catching up with you when you start paying attention. I got hit in the head with a 2×4, figuratively speaking, yesterday.

I recently did a survey for women. One of the questions I asked was “Which of these would you like to grow more of in your life?” Over 53% of the 87+ women that responded said they wanted to grow self care.

Message received, loud and clear; easy peasy. Right?

In Beth’s style, I decided to reach out to a few amazing women, Leaders, Coaches and friends to have conversations about self care. My goal was to share them to open a dialogue for creating space for more personal self care for everyone that listened.

Two of the conversations are live now. Here are the links to listen:

Self Care with Ann Sullivan
Self Care with Sabrina Davis

I hope you’ll comment on what really stands out for you.

Next up, share the details of the Self Care Workshop I’m launching at the end of November. (Details to follow. I’m so excited about what I’m creating.)

Monday was my day to write the content for the marketing of the workshop. What am I going to call it? I don’t know? How do I write the copy so it’s attractive and enrolling? I don’t know? OMG, what am I doing? I can’t do this. I need to scroll the internet so I can get some good ideas, what are others doing? That will help me figure out what to write. It has to be amazing. I want women to sign up right away, so it needs to be profound. OMG, why am I stuck? I keep staring at these words and they look stupid, nobody’s going to read it. It’s never going to work. Blah, blah, blah, blah……….. And, down the rabbit hole of self destruction I went.

STOP!!! Beth, please stop.

I have an incredibly strong judgemental critical voice, entity actually. He lives in my head. Yes, he’s a he. He’s had 50+ years of perfecting what he says to me to stop me in my tracks and stop me from being me. He’s not the one stopping me, it’s me listening and believing the lies he’s been feeding me all my life. You’re too much; You’re not good enough; you don’t belong. I could go on & on. I think you get the picture.

What do the voices in your head say?

One of the ways Ann practices self care is to have her circle of friends/colleagues to reach out to in times such as this. Ann shared quite a few beautiful ways she cares for herself in our conversation.

I am lucky to have a tribe as well. And, yesterday, I was able to reach out to my dear friend Cecily, who talked me off the ledge.

It’s ok to lean on a loved one to help you recover to what your heart knows.

What my heart knows is the only way to really care for another, is to begin with me. Last night in bed, I was reading Self Compassion by Kristin Neff. Here’s what she says: “From the Buddhist point of view, you have to care about yourself before you can really care about other people. If you are continually judging and criticizing yourself while trying to be kind to others, you are drawing artificial boundaries and distinctions that can only lead to feelings of separation and isolation.” (Page 7)

In my conversation with Sabrina, I love the metaphor she uses to describe the importance of starting with yourself. Remember the last time you flew? The FA’s do their standard safety demonstration before the plane takes off. When those oxygen masks drop, they are very clear that you are to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you help another.

In order for me to connect and care for another, I need to be connected and caring for myself.

Instead of typing this on my couch, as I was yesterday. I purposely set the intention to connect to my heart. I’m sitting in my Room of Wonder, with my freshly charged crystals, perfect music playing in the background and I have Frankincense in my difuser.

Now, a little about the Self Care Workshop.

  • If you were one of the amazing women that participated in my survey and answered that you wanted more self care in your life, then this workshop is for you.
  • If you long to change your relationship with the voices in your head, then this workshop is for you.
  • If you’re curious to learn the difference between self care & self indulgence, then this workshop is for you.
  • If you’re looking for your tribe of women to lean into for support, championing and accountability, then I promise you, this workshop is for you.

We’re going to meet via zoom 6 times. We’ll begin at the end of November and finish the week of Valentine Day (There’s a big secret for what I have planned that week). You will be invited to a private Facebook group. You’ll have a one-on-one coaching session with me before we start. And, lots of other surprises along the way.

This is open to the first 12 women that respond, enroll. Because this is the first time I’m offering this content, there is a one time introduction rate, $97.00 CAD for everything. This workshop will never be offered for this price again.

If you would like to speak to me about enrolling, please email me at beth@bethmckay.com. I would love to connect.

If you already know this is for you, then click this button & it will take you to Paypal to secure your seat.

I WANT IN AND I’M READY TO SIGN UP

Have an amazing Tuesday! And remember, take good care of you.

Love,
Bodacious Beth! xo

about Beth

Beth’s fiercely courageous life has been built on the premise of don’t settle. She is a survivor who has beaten the odds by taking charge of her own destiny.

From finance, to film, to successful entrepreneur, Beth has always lived life driven by her own rules. Her innate ability to make things happen & ‘get it done’ has lead her to founding “My Bare Naked Journey.” Her personal narrative explores who you are without all the labels & beliefs you’ve assumed along the way.

Beth, a CPCC, partners with women to move them from a life of never enoughness (yes, that’s a word in her dictionary) to the place that their hearts run free unapologetically.

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