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What if?

What if everything that has happened in your life was leading you somewhere?

What if there is a purpose, bigger then the hurt or betrayal, that you had to experience?

What if you are exactly who & where you are supposed to be, in this exact moment?

Our Deepest Fear

by Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves.
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of god.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

The word that I feel as I sit with her poem is freedom, living my life with full permission. I get to make the choices I want to make, I get to say what I want to say, I get to do what I want to do and I am willing to accept responsibility for myself.

I did an exercise with my coach last week. She called it Beth’s Unique Creative Brilliance. I got to relive my life from a whole different perspective. I shared some highs & some really dark times. These are my stories. They make me who I am today. I spent a lot of my life feeling shame for who I was. I don’t belong, I’m not loveable, nobody wants me. I don’t have that shame anymore. I’ve met it head on, with the help of my coaches & a couple of therapists.

What was so brilliant was seeing for the first time how resilient, strong & badass I am. When I found myself with no home to live in, I moved to Toronto & was hired by the 1st job I applied for. When I decided to stop smoking, I did, December 31, 2005 was the last cigarette I ever smoked. When I decided I was ready to lose weight, I did.

I make shit happen and I’m really good at it. And, even in the muck and darkest times in my life, I knew how to take care of myself & make different choices.

So, why do I share all this today? If we were sitting across from each other, I would ask you how do you feel right now? What’s going on inside?

What are your stories? How do they define you? 

I was asked to speak at a Fundraiser in April this year. I shared my story. I would love to share it with you in hopes that you can feel that free self within you. 

I’m looking for 3 women who are ready to take a journey inward to discovering their truth.  Is that you?

Do you want more freedom?

Are you tired of feeling doubt, overwhelm & fear?

Do you want to have more self compassion & creativity in your life?

Respond to me with this link. Let’s talk! 

Yes, I’m ready!

 

What are you waiting for?

 

Do you ask for help?

It’s been a while since you’ve heard from me. It’s hard to believe that the first day of summer is only weeks away. It still feels like late winter in Nova Scotia.

How have you been? What’s holding your attention these days? When I sit to write, I always spend some time imagining what you might be doing when you read this. Have you had a good day? What’s inspiring you? I’m like the eternal flame of curiosity. And, if you’re ever inclined, please let me know! I would love to hear from you.

I had the privilege of assisting on an amazing coach training program for the past 9 months with Lucid Living. It’s called the Great Story Coaching Program. We just finished with an in person retreat in Tiburon, California. I’m excited to share that I have a new program coming out this summer.

Without getting into too much detail, we have 3 types of stories that we tell. I want to talk about  our overcoming story and asking for help.

One of my hardest lessons to learn has been asking for help. I can’t do that, people will think I’m weak or stupid. I can’t let people know that I don’t know what I’m doing. What if they say no? Nobody wants to help me. Nope, not going to do that. Suck it up Beth, you’re the only one that can fix this. I can’t trust anybody.

Do you have an internal dialogue that goes on & on when you’re feeling stuck about something, or wanting to ask for help?

I spent a lot of my life believing that I was all alone. I prided myself on all that I’d survived and overcome. But every night I would sit on my couch, alone, wondering why my phone didn’t ring. What was wrong with me?

I didn’t realize it but I had built this great big wall around me and nobody could get in. I was so guarded and protective of my “I’ve got this all handled” attitude that I didn’t see how much I was the one responsible for being alone.

There came a time in my life when I had to reach out to my Doctor because I had no other place to turn to and I didn’t want to give up. That was the day that changed my life. It took some years, lots of support from coaches & friends, and most importantly, it took me being willing to ask for help and admit that it was ok if I didn’t know how to do it.

Those internal voices I mentioned, they don’t exist anymore. I still have others, they never really go away. The difference today is, I know where a lot of them came from AND I know that they’re lying.

By asking for help, I’m no longer alone, I’ve found me.

I’m curious, what might be possible in your life, if you asked for help?

On Thursday June 14th, I’ll be guiding 6 women through a 6 wk Virtual program that begins with what’s inside. Self-Care, It Begins with you! There are 4 spaces left.

Contact me if you would like to know more.

Happy New Year!

I wanted to reach out today to say thank you! Thank you for being a part of my community of Bodacious Women!

My wish for you, for 2018, is making you your number one priority!

“Self Care is so important. When you take the time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You can’t serve from an empty vessel.” Eleanor Brown

Talking about Self Care! The tele-series starts this Thursday January 4th at 6:30pm EST. There are 6 spaces left. I would love to see a full group of like-minded women learning to make themselves their number one priority for 2018. Just imagine what the ripple effect will be like?

Here’s the link with all the details: Self Care – It Begins with You

I’m really excited about 2018. There’s magic in the air already! I’ve been invited to my very first Womens Circle tonight to honour the Full Moon. There’s nothing more sacred then getting together with like-minded women. Together, we can create so much!

Do you have any year end rituals? Or, do you set goals for the New Year?

I discovered the word Bodacious by doing an exercise to find my word of the year by Christine Kane. Here’s her link if you’d like to try her method: Word Of The Year

This year I chose a new technique developed by my good friend & colleague Seema Sodha. What I love about her year end ritual is it includes the good, the not so good, and the learning from what didn’t work. I don’t want to give too much away. Here’s the link to her process: How to Rock 2018

My words for 2018 are: PASSION, PLAY & PERMISSION

What I love about each word is they form what FREEDOM means to me. I am free when I am passionate about what I’m doing, I’m free when I’m playing. And, most important to me this year, is giving myself permission to be me, without the filters of “am I good enough” or “is this too much.”

I would love to hear from you if you try either of these, or if you have your own ritual. Who knows, someone else might benefit from what works for you! Send me an email at beth@bethmckay.com.

Lastly, for everyone that lives in the Halifax area, I am so pleased to share that I am holding a Vision Board workshop again this year and I’m not doing it alone. Andrea Chute, of Lower Sackville Yoga is co-leading it with me.

It’s a whole day dedicated to you:

We’ve designed an amazing day that starts out with gentle yoga and then we’ll dive into creating the vision you want for your life. A delicious lunch is included and everything you need to create your Vision Board.

Space is limited to 20 and there are 18 spaces left.

Last link, I promise, follow here for all the details: Vision Board Workshop

May 2018 be a year filled with well-being, joy, laughter and connection, to yourself first and then to others!

Much love,
Bodacious Beth!

I had a coffee date with a new friend last week. We were getting together to talk about self care. She started out by offering me the most amazing feedback I have ever received about my website. It felt amazing that someone finally acknowledged the impact I wanted to create. I thanked her from the bottom of my heart and then shared the fact(?) that she was the first person to ever do that. And then I went on to share that I had never had an ROI from my site, not one. Forward to less then 5 minutes later & I shared that women had registered for my Vision Board workshop in January, through my website.

HOLY SHIT!! I just lied. And what’s crazy is that I actually believed what I’d said.

Have you ever said something and then realized that what you said isn’t true?

Andrea Chute, of Lower Sackville Yoga, & I had an amazing conversation AND we have some exciting news to share about a workshop we’re co-creating in January. Stay tuned!

Ok, back to the lies we tell ourselves and the lies we believe that aren’t even ours!

I have a lie that I’ve believed since kindergarten. My teacher wrote on my report card, Beth tends to be bossy. My parents translated it into Beth is too much.

I used to pride myself on my abilities of being able to perceive what others wanted. I called it a super power. I could out think anyone. I could see the whole picture and I knew what needed to be done.

What I didn’t realize I was doing, was thinking about everyone & everything else, and forgetting me. I never considered my thoughts, or desires, it just mattered that I fit in and that everything went smoothly. I didn’t want to be blamed for something going wrong.

As I write this morning, my heart is sad for how lonely I was and so starved for love. I was so busy trying to fit in and belong, that I never even considered who I was or where I wanted to belong.

Trace back in your life, is there something that was said to you that you’ve held onto & decided it must be true? Consider the impact it’s had on your life.

I have a super duper, over-achieving, perfectionist driven critical voice that lives in my head. Yes, this is what I used to call a super power. I also refer to it as my inner judge.

Here comes the fun part! I really mean it.

First, I throw that crazy judgemental critical voice out. I know it’s sole purpose is to try & make me safe by lying to me.

Then, I stop and listen.

I’d like to introduce you to my new friend that lives in my heart. She’s my nurturing voice. She wants what’s best for me. She loves me unconditionally and I’m learning she can also be the discerning voice that stops me when my choices aren’t serving my highest good.

I want what’s best for YOU!

If you would like to talk more about a belief that you would like to change, please respond, I would love to speak with you. Email Beth

If you’re ready to take that critical voice that’s constantly chattering away in your head and learn to silence it, then I would love for you to join this 6 part tele-class workshop on Self-Care.

Follow this link for the details: Self Care, It begins with you

Or, sign up right now! There are only 8 spaces left:  REGISTER HERE

What is one thing you can do differently today that would be an act of Self care?

Reality has a funny way of catching up with you when you start paying attention. I got hit in the head with a 2×4, figuratively speaking, yesterday.

I recently did a survey for women. One of the questions I asked was “Which of these would you like to grow more of in your life?” Over 53% of the 87+ women that responded said they wanted to grow self care.

Message received, loud and clear; easy peasy. Right?

In Beth’s style, I decided to reach out to a few amazing women, Leaders, Coaches and friends to have conversations about self care. My goal was to share them to open a dialogue for creating space for more personal self care for everyone that listened.

Two of the conversations are live now. Here are the links to listen:

Self Care with Ann Sullivan
Self Care with Sabrina Davis

I hope you’ll comment on what really stands out for you.

Next up, share the details of the Self Care Workshop I’m launching at the end of November. (Details to follow. I’m so excited about what I’m creating.)

Monday was my day to write the content for the marketing of the workshop. What am I going to call it? I don’t know? How do I write the copy so it’s attractive and enrolling? I don’t know? OMG, what am I doing? I can’t do this. I need to scroll the internet so I can get some good ideas, what are others doing? That will help me figure out what to write. It has to be amazing. I want women to sign up right away, so it needs to be profound. OMG, why am I stuck? I keep staring at these words and they look stupid, nobody’s going to read it. It’s never going to work. Blah, blah, blah, blah……….. And, down the rabbit hole of self destruction I went.

STOP!!! Beth, please stop.

I have an incredibly strong judgemental critical voice, entity actually. He lives in my head. Yes, he’s a he. He’s had 50+ years of perfecting what he says to me to stop me in my tracks and stop me from being me. He’s not the one stopping me, it’s me listening and believing the lies he’s been feeding me all my life. You’re too much; You’re not good enough; you don’t belong. I could go on & on. I think you get the picture.

What do the voices in your head say?

One of the ways Ann practices self care is to have her circle of friends/colleagues to reach out to in times such as this. Ann shared quite a few beautiful ways she cares for herself in our conversation.

I am lucky to have a tribe as well. And, yesterday, I was able to reach out to my dear friend Cecily, who talked me off the ledge.

It’s ok to lean on a loved one to help you recover to what your heart knows.

What my heart knows is the only way to really care for another, is to begin with me. Last night in bed, I was reading Self Compassion by Kristin Neff. Here’s what she says: “From the Buddhist point of view, you have to care about yourself before you can really care about other people. If you are continually judging and criticizing yourself while trying to be kind to others, you are drawing artificial boundaries and distinctions that can only lead to feelings of separation and isolation.” (Page 7)

In my conversation with Sabrina, I love the metaphor she uses to describe the importance of starting with yourself. Remember the last time you flew? The FA’s do their standard safety demonstration before the plane takes off. When those oxygen masks drop, they are very clear that you are to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you help another.

In order for me to connect and care for another, I need to be connected and caring for myself.

Instead of typing this on my couch, as I was yesterday. I purposely set the intention to connect to my heart. I’m sitting in my Room of Wonder, with my freshly charged crystals, perfect music playing in the background and I have Frankincense in my difuser.

Now, a little about the Self Care Workshop.

  • If you were one of the amazing women that participated in my survey and answered that you wanted more self care in your life, then this workshop is for you.
  • If you long to change your relationship with the voices in your head, then this workshop is for you.
  • If you’re curious to learn the difference between self care & self indulgence, then this workshop is for you.
  • If you’re looking for your tribe of women to lean into for support, championing and accountability, then I promise you, this workshop is for you.

We’re going to meet via zoom 6 times. We’ll begin at the end of November and finish the week of Valentine Day (There’s a big secret for what I have planned that week). You will be invited to a private Facebook group. You’ll have a one-on-one coaching session with me before we start. And, lots of other surprises along the way.

This is open to the first 12 women that respond, enroll. Because this is the first time I’m offering this content, there is a one time introduction rate, $97.00 CAD for everything. This workshop will never be offered for this price again.

If you would like to speak to me about enrolling, please email me at beth@bethmckay.com. I would love to connect.

If you already know this is for you, then click this button & it will take you to Paypal to secure your seat.

I WANT IN AND I’M READY TO SIGN UP

Have an amazing Tuesday! And remember, take good care of you.

Love,
Bodacious Beth! xo

“Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you”

Jean-Paul Sartre

 

If someone had shown me this quote 10 years ago I would have told them where to go. It wouldn’t have been pretty.

Life had brought me to my knees; actually, it had kicked the shit out of me. I had lost my breasts due to complications with surgery and I had resigned from the company I had founded. What the fu** am I supposed to do with that? I was heartbroken, angry, lost and really wanted to understand why this had happened to me. Being a slightly stubborn (cough) woman, I was on the war path to figure it out.

The first thing I had to learn was to stop asking why. As long as I kept playing that tape over & over again, I would remain stuck in a loop that had no answer. I’ll be honest with you, this blog isn’t going to solve getting unstuck instantly. My hope is to spark a new thought into that story, whatever it is. That’s the beginning.

I would like to thank every single woman, and the men, that responded to my survey! I am so moved by your honesty and vulnerability.

Almost 50% want more freedom in their lives. 1 out of every 2 women is feeling stuck in her life, wanting to find more freedom.

 

What are the stories, the tapes, that are playing over & over again, that are keeping you from the life you’d like to be living?

 

Download this FREEDOM WORKSHEET to begin exploring.

And, then!

Join me Tuesday Sept 19th at 6:30pm Eastern for a 45 min Zoom call.

(You’ll leave the call with a tool that you can use to reconnect to your freedom over & over again.)

Email:  beth@bethmckay.com to reserve your spot.

Space is limited to 12 women.

 

I can’t wait to meet you.

Bodacious Beth

For the past week I have been asking myself this question a lot.

You see, I want something really badly in my life. I’ve been spinning the wheels in my mind over and over and over again trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong, or not doing or need to be doing more of. (Get the picture of the frenzy I’ve created?)

When I woke up Sunday morning it was like the fog had lifted from my brain.

I had placed myself inside a box, AGAIN.. No, this isn’t my first time at the rodeo…Could this be you? Coach with BethMcKay.comCould this be you? Coach with BethMcKay.com

I wrote last about my amazing new home. I even shared a couple of pictures, small ones because I had told myself that my home wasn’t “as good” as my last place, so I couldn’t show everyone my whole home.

Seriously? Why on earth would I do that? What would motivate me to not share my joy? Isn’t it fun to be around people when they’re joyous? It’s infectious and can lift your spirits, at least it does for me.

How often do you stop yourself from sharing something with a friend? Or, stop trying something you’ve secretly been wanting to learn.  How often do you find yourself seeking the approval of others for something you’ve done, or even just to be noticed? Do you ever stop and ask yourself why? What’s the story you tell yourself?

Lots of questions today. I’m on fire and the sun is shining.

I want to speak to your imagination and to your desires. I know they’re in there. Where in your life are you holding back because you’ve been told that’s not for you? Where in your life do you go beyond the beyond in hopes of being seen and recognized for your brilliance?

Want to connect to answer any of these questions? I would love to speak with you.

Contact Beth

As I let go of the lie that I am defined by the home I live in, or that it even matters to who I am, I’m seeing other boxes I’ve placed myself in. The box that I need to write the profound blog post, or the perfect Facebook post, then I’ll get noticed and liked.

I was abandoned not once but twice in my life and so the story I told(tell) myself is all I want is to be loved. AND, I have to be extra everything in order to be loved. Do you see the belief? Can you picture how exhausting it has been to try to ‘fit in.’ To do the right thing in order to belong.  There’s a catch here and it’s a doozy. It even caught me by surprise.

I’ve spent much of my adult life abandoning myself because of what I believed. I realize I spoke about this last week, but it’s so huge that I believe I need to share it again.

I’m re-reading Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements. On page 13 he writes, “Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies. OMG!!! He goes on to say “To be alive is the biggest fear humans have…. our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and to express what we really are. Just being ourselves is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our lives trying to satisfy other people’s demands. We have learned to live by other people’s points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and not being good enough for someone else.

I’m tired of living my life in the boxes I’ve built around me. As I continue to discover them and unpack myself, I’m experiencing freedom at a whole new level.

I want to share that freedom with you. So much so I’m discounting my 3 month program by over 50%.

GET OUT OF THE BOX YOU’RE LIVING IN

Here is what I offer you.

A safe place to pause and rest for a while.

1 – 2 hour introduction session
7 – 1 hour sessions
1 – 1.5 hour completion and celebration session
A Journal to record what your discovering
Email access to me in between our sessions

In our first month, we’ll explore your beliefs, examine their truth and challenge anything that makes you feel less than whole.

In our second month, we’re going to tackle those incessant negative voices in your head that never seem to stop. We’ll learn where they come from. We’ll discover whose voices they are? Yes, that’s right, they’re not yours!

In our third month, we’re going to explore what you’re truly longing for. We’ll connect to the Author that lives within you, that’s just bursting to break free. And, let’s be real, it’s not going to be all sunshine and lollipops. We’ll learn what the true meaning of failure is and how to recover from the bumps along the way.

Because this year is all about breaking free from the boxes that keep you stuck, I have created space for 6 women. AND, what’s even more amazing is I’m discounting the whole package by over 50%.

If this speaks to you, and you’re one of the 6 lucky women, you’ll only pay $997.00 for everything.

Let this be your year to break free! I can’t wait to meet you.

LETS TALK!

Contact Beth

Beth McKay, CPCC, is the CBO, the Chief Bodacious Officer and founder extraordinaire of The Bodacious Way. Beth has been described as a tenacious, determined and compassionate coach. A Professional Certified Coach & Motivational speaker, Beth thrives on waking women up to the core truths of who they are. Beth believes that a women that embodies her truths is a woman in charge of creating the life she dreams of living.

I would love to paint you a picture of my new home. I moved in March and I’m sitting in my new creative space today.

Picture this, ALL the walls were beige, all of them. Boring beige.

First thing I did the day I got the keys was choose colours that inspired me. I came in the day after it was painted and was blown away by the transformation. I could feel warmth, the colours inspired me, and grounded me. Next up I brought my trusted sage and smudged the entire space. I invited love, creativity, connection, inspiration, abundance, laughter, joy, imagination, wonder and awe, hope and magic into my new living space.

Have you ever set intentions for a new space? What are your rituals?

I’m in my 3rd week and it’s been magical. I’ve lived in a lot of places in my life, but I’ve never felt so in love with my bedroom, ever. It feels sacred. This morning, I’ve moved into my sewing room and have been adding all the elements for how I want to feel in this space. Funny story, only 2 days ago I came in with the purpose of ‘working’ and my mind went. “You have no idea what you’re doing.” So, I gave up. Actually, I decided not to torture myself with negative self talk. What I chose was to watch a few episodes of Buffy, the Vampire Slayer. Yes, I’m an avid fan.

AND….. that brings me to the boxes. I know, you’re thinking of the boxes I had to unpack.

I’m talking about the box I’ve been living in. It goes like this. I create a “to do” list. I clean my house and do everything that’s not on the “to do” list in preparation to sit down and work. Some may call that procrastination… I get everything perfect and then go to begin and my mind goes blank and then the chatter starts. What are you thinking? You can’t do this, you don’t know how. You should have done that before you started this. I don’t know enough…… Get the picture. I get overwhelmed by it and feeling overwhelmed has been a recipe for me to shut down. It’s too much, so I give up and find a way to escape.

Except, I’m not escaping. I’m abandoning myself and abandoning what I love.

I have been immersed in a program with Lucid Living for the past 2 years. It’s the Great Story Coaching Program and currently I’m about to finish the Mastery Program. More on this to come in the summer. I have some exciting new offerings I’m creating.

One of the biggest gifts I received was seeing how I was abandoned and how I continued to  abandon myself in my life. AND then forgiving myself for it.

This brings me to a special offer I would like to invite you to consider for yourself or someone you know.

GET OUT OF THE BOX YOU’RE LIVING IN

Are you feeling stuck in your life?

Do you feel like you’re just going through the motions every day, wondering if this is all there is?

You don’t remember the last time you felt happy for no reason?

I know that place. I spent a good part of my life believing that everything I ever wanted would be achieved in what I did. If I could have a successful business, a better body, more money, more friends, a relationship, then I would be happy. I would have everything. I got so good at all the doing that I forgot about me. I was told at a young age that being an artist wasn’t practical, you have to work hard and study and go to university and get a degree. I spent 30 years believing that being creative wasn’t practical. Talk about a box I placed myself in, by believing what I was told.

Here is what I offer you.

A safe place to pause and rest for a while.

1 – 2 hour introduction session
7 – 1 hour sessions
1 – 1.5 hour completion and celebration session
A Journal to record what your discovering
Email access to me in between our sessions

In our first month, we’ll explore your beliefs, examine their truth and challenge anything that makes you feel less than whole.

In our second month, we’re going to tackle those incessant negative voices in your head that never seem to stop. We’ll learn where they come from. We’ll discover whose voices they are? Yes, that’s right, they’re not yours!

In our third month, we’re going to explore what you’re truly longing for. We’ll connect to the Author that lives within you, that’s just bursting to break free. And, let’s be real, it’s not going to be all sunshine and lollipops. We’ll learn what the true meaning of failure is and how to recover from the bumps along the way.

Because this year is all about breaking free from the boxes that keep you stuck, I have created space for 6 women. AND, what’s even more amazing is I’m discounting the whole package by over 50%.

I normally charge $2,100.00 for this package. If this speaks to you, and you’re one of the 6 lucky women, you’ll only pay $997.00 for everything.

Let this be your year to break free! I can’t wait to meet you.

CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR PLACE

(YES I’M READY TO BREAK FREE)

Beth McKay, CPCC, is the CBO, the Chief Bodacious Officer and founder extraordinaire of The Bodacious Way. Beth has been described as a tenacious, determined and compassionate coach. A Professional Certified Coach & Motivational speaker, Beth thrives on waking women up to the core truths of who they are. Beth believes that a women that embodies her truths is a woman in charge of creating the life she dreams of living.

Happy Valentine Day or as I like to call it, Happy Love Myself day!!

I hadn’t planned it, but my journaling this morning became a love letter I wrote to myself. What a moving & magical way to begin my day. I acknowledged all the beautiful qualities I love about myself. I celebrated my life; the good, the amazing, the hurtful and the despair. If everything that’s happened in my life hadn’t occurred, I wouldn’t be who I am today. The more I get to know myself and peel away the lies and stories I took on, the more I see this beautiful woman that has so much love and sparkle.

What’s one act of self love you can add to your day?

Could you imagine how amazing your life could be if you created a self love practice every day!!!

Last week I introduced you to a compassionate practice. I would love to hear what you’ve been learning. Send me a message.

My compassionate practice today will be spending time in my sewing room finishing a big pillow cover with my favourite fabric designer. I love the freedom I experience when I’m sewing. I don’t have to think….

In continuing with my theme of Self Love this month, I wanted to talk more about that spiral from feeling joy to feeling hopelessness & despair. I don’t even get a warning when it’s going to happen sometimes.

So, how do you stop the spiral?

In short, you don’t. Something has happened to trigger you and the best thing you can do is give yourself the space to recognize it when it’s happening or happened. The more I learn to recognize what I’m feeling or what’s happening in my reality, the more I am able to respond with choice. And, the best choice is to stop. Just stop everything; maybe take a seat, close your eyes and just stop. Breathe in and out for a few minutes.

In order to be in a different space or to feel something different, it’s important to know exactly what you’re feeling right now. And, then to let yourself feel it. If you’re angry, it won’t serve anyone around to stuff it down and deny it. I promise you it will rear it’s ugly head at the most inopportune time. I’ve been on both ends of anger coming out at the wrong time in the wrong place. Now, I’m not saying you have to tell everyone you’re with “hey, I’m angry” It can be as simple as recognizing a reaction that’s made you mad. Acknowledge it and put it aside until you can be in the right space to explore and just let yourself be mad.

I remember being on a Lifestream course weekend years ago. We had just played the Game of Life and my team lost, well we all lost. There were about 30 of us in the room and the leader was looking at us all with so much disappointment. He singled me out and said, “You, Beth, I’m most disappointed in you, you knew the game and yet you did nothing.” If I had had a gun, I would have used it I was that angry. I wanted to hurt him for singling me out. We were sent home shortly after, in silence, for the rest of the night. I remember driving home, I felt sick to my stomach I was so angry. About halfway home I started to cry. It hit me like a ton of bricks, I had spent my life swallowing my anger and it was making me sick. I think I cried in my car for an hour just letting it all out.

The gift he gave me was seeing and feeling anger and how I had bottled it up. I was frozen because I didn’t know how to let go of my anger. Now, at that time, I said to myself, I’m never going to let myself be angry again….. Great statement & little did I know I was setting myself up for failure yet again. There’s nothing wrong with being angry. It’s an emotion and in order to not feel angry, you have to feel anger. It will shift, I promise.

Maybe anger isn’t your go to emotion, is there an emotion that you feel intimate with? Let me know. I would love to hear what your relationship is with your emotions.

In what ways do you love yourself? What are the qualities you know about yourself that you love to share in the world? Let’s love each other up today!

Are you curious to find your truth?

I would love to help you find your way! Send me a message & we can set up a call. No obligation to continue and no charge. I would love for you to know your truth.

Till next week!
Bodacious Beth

Are you ready to live a Bodacious Life? What is a Bodacious life, you ask?

It’s about living your life without apology
It’s about refusing to settle
It’s about embracing freedom
And, so much more….

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Beth McKay, CPCC, is the CBO, the Chief Bodacious Officer and founder extraordinaire of The Bodacious Way. Beth has been described as a tenacious, determined and compassionate coach. A Professional Certified Coach & Motivational speaker, Beth thrives on waking women up to the core truths of who they are. Beth believes that a women that embodies her truths is a woman in charge of creating the life she dreams of living.

Are you ready to discover your truths? YES I’M READY!

It’s been a while. I keep waiting to learn the perfect formula for social media and the best way to engage through blogging. I have to say, it’s exhausting. And, in the interest of full disclosure, I don’t feel like I’m any further ahead. I actually spent 2 hours this morning trying to find the perfect problem for me to create the perfect Opt-In.  Wow! I just used the word perfect 3 times in one paragraph!

The only thing I’ve accomplished is frustration and disappointment in myself for not doing enough. And, anger, I can’t forget about the anger I feel towards not accomplishing all the things I want to accomplish. Here I go again, telling myself I’m not being and doing enough. I’m a failure, I suck, I should just pack up my bags and leave….. OMG! See how fast I spiral down? This really happens to me……

What takes you from feeling like you’re on top of the world, conquering everything you’ve set out to achieve to feeling like shit and what the heck were you thinking anyway?

One of the greatest freedoms for me has been learning how I can take myself from feeling joy to feeling hopeless in a split second. Stay tuned for next weeks blog, I’m going to offer some ways for you to begin learning how you can recognize where & when you spiral.

Valentine Day is coming up. I used to hate Valentine Day. I would begin to cringe near the end of January. The stores would be full of red hearts and stupid cards that said “I Love You.” or “Be Mine.” Nobody wants me, nobody loves me….. (I’m laughing remembering how I used to feel as I write this)

So, in keeping with the theme of love, loving another, being loved by another, how important is self love?

I never loved my body. I was too fat, too short, my breasts were too big, I had red hair. Nobody’s ever going to love me, hell, I don’t even love myself. I could continue with my old self loathing story. Kids were mean when I was growing up. I developed early and had to start wearing a bra in grade 6. I remember feeling so ashamed everyday at school. The boys would tease me & pull on the strap. I got the nickname 36C in grade 9. I was so embarrassed.  And, there was nothing I could do about it, which made me feel even worse about myself.

I always said, If I ever lose my weight, I want to have a flat stomach and perky breasts. That dream came true for me in 2005. I joined Weight Watchers & over the course of a year, I lost 100 lbs. I was on top of the world. I could walk into any store & buy clothes. I looked amazing, on the outside. I had a whole different story playing out on the inside. I had become obsessed with my excess skin. I felt like I was being punished for being a bad person with a weight problem.

Remembering my dream of a flat tummy & perky breasts, I went under the knife in 2006.

And……….then my world fell apart.

You know the statistics, 1 in 1 million? I became the 1. There was a complication in my breast reconstruction and on Boxing Day, I lost my breasts……. What the F***? Why me?

The only way I got through all the operations was to go numb inside. I remember telling myself, don’t feel Beth, don’t feel. It was too painful to feel the hurt, the anger. I felt like my body had betrayed me. Little did I know the impact this life changing event would have on me.

What events happened in your life that have shaped you into who you are today?

My physical recovery took time. My emotional recovery took even longer. I came to a point where I couldn’t do it on my own so I reached out for help. I started with therapy and then found a woman’s group. And that lead me to coaching.

The biggest hurdle I had to overcome was to learn to let go. To let go of the hurt, the anger, the disappointment, the betrayal, the blame, the fear. I had spent a lifetime bottling up my emotions.

The only way I was going to get over this was to go through and let myself feel everything. There was nothing I could do to get my breasts back, but what I could do was learn to accept what happened.

So, where’s the self love Beth?

In January 2014 I was at Body Blitz, a women only water therapies spa in Toronto with a friend. Bathing suits were optional. I could feel myself longing to be confident enough to enjoy the waters without a bathing suit. What was stopping me? Me, I was the only person that was stopping me.

So, in Beth style, I told my friend I’m coming to Body Blitz on Valentine Day & I’m going to love myself enough to do it naked….. What the F**** had I just set myself up for?

It was the bestest Valentine Day ever. I took my big, beautiful, bold naked body to the spa. I was shy at first, but then I noticed that nobody was staring at me, everyone was in their own world, probably listening to their own voices.

I remember sitting in the sauna. I closed my eyes and allowed myself to feel. I could feel my inner champion just bursting at the seams. I belonged here, I was beautiful exactly as I was. In that moment, I felt so much self love for myself, it moved me to tears.

Have you ever felt the sweet tenderness of self love?

Self love is the knowing with no hesitation that you are beautiful inside and out. It’s the knowing that there’s absolutely nothing you have to do to be accepted, for you accept everything about you. And, it’s so much more. It’s not a destination that you ever arrive at. Loving yourself changes everyday.

One of the first things I introduce my clients to is a compassionate practice. They get to define what being compassionate is for themselves. I get so moved by witnessing what they’re learning for themselves.

Where does compassion fit in your life? Do the voices in your head support you or do they want you to work harder, be more of this, less of that?

I would like to invite you to create your own compassionate practice.

What’s one way you can be compassionate with yourself today? And, how did it make you feel?

Let’s all learn compassion together! I would love for you to join the conversation on my Facebook Page. I’ll be sharing there all month on self love. Here’s the link: BETH’S FACEBOOK PAGE

Till next week!
Bodacious Beth

Are you ready to live a Bodacious Life? What is a Bodacious life, you ask?

It’s about living your life without apology
It’s about refusing to settle
It’s about embracing freedom
And, so much more….

Sign up for Beth’s complimentary Journal, THE CORE TRUTHS ABOUT LIVING A BODACIOUS LIFE

Beth McKay, CPCC, is the CBO, the Chief Bodacious Officer and founder extraordinaire of The Bodacious Way. Beth has been described as a tenacious, determined and compassionate coach. A Professional Certified Coach & Motivational speaker, Beth thrives on waking women up to the core truths of who they are. Beth believes that a women that embodies her truths is a woman in charge of creating the life she dreams of living.

Are you ready to live your life without apology? I’M READY

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Beth’s fiercely courageous life has been built on the premise of don’t settle. She is a survivor who has beaten the odds by taking charge of her own destiny.

From finance, to film, to successful entrepreneur, Beth has always lived life driven by her own rules. Her innate ability to make things happen & ‘get it done’ has lead her to founding “My Bare Naked Journey.” Her personal narrative explores who you are without all the labels & beliefs you’ve assumed along the way.

Beth, a CPCC, partners with women to move them from a life of never enoughness (yes, that’s a word in her dictionary) to the place that their hearts run free unapologetically.

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